Please follow this line of reasoning:
We wield more power to maintain our composure as we accept ourselves now, both old and new ways of thinking. As we become conscious how one of our own reactions does not create what we want, we shift it as we can bit by bit.
Below we read a story where the female protagonist changes her habitual actions in a confrontation with her male partner. In the incident, she gives up her “fight back” response, and instead, she chooses maintaining her calm.
The Tale
Pauline and her partner Gerald have had some habits of interacting that are based in anger and fear. For example, Gerry would ask P to do something for him in a commanding voice. P would bristle at the tone and feel defensive.
In the habitual pattern, the exchange would shift into two angry raised voices, hurling of insults and the like.
This scene illustrates conscious growth underway. Pauline noticed her inner landscape of fear and tension. She exclaimed to herself, “Hey,” P exclaimed, “I want a happier life! What can I do now to handle these triggers differently?
Our star acquired some support and crafted some new strategies for interactions with G.
New Response
The heroine dove into experimenting with responding differently. When the male partner started accusing her of various misdeeds, P did not react. Pauline chose to remember she was safe no matter what he said and to maintain her calm.
What happens when invectives are thrown and there is no reaction? Interestingly, Gerald was taken aback. He stalled and sputtered. The partner turned up the meanness of the insults.
P stayed calm. He backed off.
This Star felt immediate pay off. Whereas with the former approach, she fought and hurled insults. This time she kept her composure and her feelings were not wounded. The fight had no fuel.
Empowered Perspective
This protagonist stood strong. In the past P had thought her safety depended on fighting back. Now she wielded the power of self-mastery and restraint. As this woman supported herself, Pauline succeeds in creating a happier life.
Have you taken a new posture toward a habitual exchange that had been unsatisfying? Let’s share stories and support one another in these acts that take composure and courage.
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.